Man Mentoring Can Help
There is great value in listening to the advice of more experienced Catholic men. Non-Catholic men can teach us a thing or two as well. The guy who thinks he has it all figured out is a full-on idiot.
A huge reason to study history is to learn from the successes and failures of the past. The George Santayana saying that “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it” holds true for manliness. We can learn from the past as well as the present. The key is taking the time to listen.
Most of us know someone who can share stories or advice for us. All we gotta do is ask. Sometimes forums are provided so all we have to do is listen to or engage in conversations. For instance, I love our fellowship time at Knights of Columbus. We hang out as a group of Catholic guys of varying ages. It is cool mixing it up and getting to know all the guys. Dads, veterans, husbands, executives, tradesmen, you name it. Our common bond is our love for Christ.
I like talking to my dad, who happens to be Protestant. I learn so much from him, and we can relate on a lot of stuff. I think a lot of us can learn from our dads if we would listen. Heck, even if we had a bad dad, could we not also learn from the mistakes? Learning the reasons why is also super enlightening.
Are you in a small Catholic church community in your parish? This is a great place to listen to other families and, in particular, other men. This is also where they listen to you. My advice is to listen well, ask good questions, and be honest in your own answers. I have personally found small church communities to be especially beneficial, not just for me but for my entire family.
Whether we have a formal mentorship or just start listening better to the guys around us, the key is listening and observing.
- Is this a Christian virtue or an example I need to emulate?
- Is this a sin or something I need to avoid?
- Have they encountered this situation I am facing now?
- What is their experience with…?
- Are there any topics I need to avoid in the future?
Listen and observe. Use what you see and hear. Evaluate these things. Learn and grow. Pray for your fellow man.
Posted on May 12, 2014, in Catholic Husbands, Catholic Manliness, Parenting, Personal Witness and tagged catholic dad, catholic husband, getting advice, Learning to listen, mentoring. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.